As I enter the final year of my 30s, I thought I s As I enter the final year of my 30s, I thought I share with you some pictures of mine at 9 months, 9 years, 19 years, 29 years  to today 39 years old of age. Looking back at each decade, I feel both ‘older’ and ‘younger’, I see the change in my features, the change in my way of life, the change in my personality and the experience itched on my face. I am grateful for the life I have lived thus far and excited for the life I am yet to live. 
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2026 - 39, (Home, England), I am ready for this final year before my 40s but also ready for this next decade. 
2016 - 29, (Oslo, Norway), this decade was about self discovery and building the life I dreamt about. The life that I am super proud of and truly grateful to be living. This decade, I built my financial life and in later years choose to heal from the trauma gained in the last decade and now I feel well equipped for the future. 
2006 - 19, (Glasgow, Scotland), I thought I was grown (look at the cheekbones 🤣🤣) and ready for the world, chiiiild was I wrong, let’s just say, I am still resolving the trauma the decade brought me but I am grateful because I met my best friends and made decisions for the future I wanted to have. (Spoiler alert - I did better than I dreamed). 
1996 - 9, (Home, Zambia) this was my birthday but my little sister insisted she had to be the one in the middle. The only way we knew whose birthday it was, was by standing in the middle but this year I remember baby sister crying her eyes out and refusing 🤨
1988 - 9 months, (Chililabombwe, Zambia) although my mother looks tired and traumatised😟, I know I was loved and happy. 
#happybirthday #happybirthday❤️ #newera #39
Attended #ascotraces for the second year running a Attended #ascotraces for the second year running and I am glad to have experienced the ‘Village enclosure’ this year, whilst I loved ‘Windsor enclosure’ last year, it’s not for me. Next year, I want Queen Anne’s enclosure. 💕 #girlsdayout #girlslikeus #ascotfashion
How I missed you my love 🥰🥰🥰 #hertripsabroad #bla How I missed you my love 🥰🥰🥰

#hertripsabroad #blackgirlstraveltoo #maldives #neverstopexploring #welltravelled
Tried being a #touristforaday and we chose #london Tried being a #touristforaday and we chose #london because why not. My feet still hurt from the thought of how much walking we did, the fact that we walked from #bigben to #buckinghampalace is still fresh on my mind. 

#neverstopexploring
🖤🖤MARCH PHOTO/VIDEO DUMP🖤🖤 So much happened and 🖤🖤MARCH PHOTO/VIDEO DUMP🖤🖤 

So much happened and yet I can’t find the words.
It has been an amazing week here, definitely recom It has been an amazing week here, definitely recommend @iberostar in Agadir. 
#neverstopexploring #wanderlust #welltravelled #lifeofadventure #hertripsabroad
I spent a week in #dohaqatar and had the most rela I spent a week in #dohaqatar and had the most relaxing and fulfilling time of my life. Sometimes taking it slow and living in the moment is what the soul needs. 🥰🥰🥰
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#blackgirlstraveltoo
I had such an amazing week in Doha, Qatar after no I had such an amazing week in Doha, Qatar after not visiting for almost 8years. 📍

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Lifestyle · July 29, 2016

Tips on conquering the Fear Of Being Away #FOBA

#FOBA aka Fear Of Being Away is one of those terms that has recently become very popular. We all have concerns when we are away from our beloved homes either on holiday or working away for extended periods of time. For someone (mwah) who is constantly traveling every chance I get, it would come across as surprising to think I ‘suffer’ from FOBA. I am always thinking, did I turn my stove off, switch of my slow cooker or shut my door properly and so on.

FOBA

I love to travel more than I ever thought possible, I am always on a hunt for the next deal, I have alerts set up for bucketlist travel destinations and I am constantly checking how I can best utilise my weekends. But in spite of me having such a huge love for travel, I also have a huge case of FOBA.

Fear Of Being Away happens to all of us, most of us are worried about our homes and the contents we’ve spent our hard-earned cash on (or even worse, pay later plans we have in place for some of our homely contents). Ever since I moved into my apartment over a year ago and had to purchase everything myself, I realised the importance of always ensuring I have checked my home security before I leave my apartment.

When I was living with my parents, I never really put much thought into the security of our family home outside locking the door on my way out. Living on my own has made me realise just how much I took for granted when I was living with my parents.

If you have the same case of FOBA as I do, here are a few tips that you can implement to ensure your home is safe whilst you’re away.

Ask your neighbor to be on the lookout

I know this day and age, not everyone is ‘social’ with their neighbours nor even know who there neighbours are but if you’re then it’s good idea to ask them to be on the look out for suspicious people on your property. You don’t have to give your neighbour your house keys just now and again looking out there window across to hour property is enough.

Ensure you lock all windows and doors

I live on the top floor and I know many people who think living on top floor or having a terraced out you can leave the Windows upstairs open is ok, it is NOT. Always ensure that you lock all windows and doors and double-check them before living.

Install home security system 

There are so many home systems on the market now we are all spoilt for choose. My brother and his family have a home system which they are diligent about turning on before they leave the house but as I said the home system is only good if you ensure you have locked all windows and doors so it is engaged. Many companies like Panasonic offer home systems that helps ease your mind whilst away. Check out this video of Dave, the Dog put together by Panasonic.

DAVE IS BACK… and this time he’s on holiday! His owners have gone away and left him in charge of the house. But thanks to them installing the Panasonic Smart Home, an easy to install and operate home monitoring system that protects your property in minutes, DAVE too can have a vacation… So now we can all have a carefree Summer chilling on the beach in Marbella or sipping cocktails in Vancouver without any FOBA (Fear Of Being Away) thanks to Panasonic’s super smart home security system

Switch a light on when away 

This might seem odd and a waste of electricity but you would be surprised how often a thief is deterred if you’ve kept your light on because it gives the illusion that someone is home. If your home is all dark for the entire period you’re away, it’s easier for thieves to target your home and steal from you.

Ask family to check in 

Just like asking your neighbours to be on the look out, you can also ask family members if they don’t live too far off. If you will be away for more than a week and you don’t have security seem it makes sense to make use of your family as well as neighbours. I know some people register for house sitters so that could be another way you could protect your home.

These are the tips that I use to ensure that I keep FOBA at bay whilst I travel across the globe. What are some of your tips that you use to ensure you protect your home and enjoy your time away?

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Comments

  1. Beautyqueenuk says

    August 12, 2016 at 3:54 pm

    Some fab tips and I do suffer from FOBA for sure, I almost want cctv inside the house so I can see the cats x

    Reply
  2. Camilla says

    August 11, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    Great tips, I am very security conscious and do all the locking up here!

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      August 12, 2016 at 10:48 am

      Same here but doesn’t stop me worrying like mad

  3. Olivia Jade says

    August 11, 2016 at 4:41 pm

    I am going away next week and this is bothering me so much! I am going to ask my mum if she can pop in whilst I am away x

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      August 12, 2016 at 10:48 am

      Having family or friends pop over can help ease your mind

  4. fashion-mommy says

    August 11, 2016 at 4:17 pm

    Such good tips, I think the idea of being broken into is the biggest cause of FOBA.

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      August 12, 2016 at 10:47 am

      So true

  5. Rhian Westbury says

    August 11, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    I have this as well, there’s always those worries of did I shut that window or did I lock the door properly. I also worry I’ll miss out on social activities others are doing x

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      August 12, 2016 at 10:47 am

      I keno the feeling very well. Thanks for sharing Rhian

  6. Mellissa Williams says

    August 11, 2016 at 11:07 am

    I do have this as well! I love to travel but worry about being away. Luckily I live in a flat and there is always someone there downstairs to check on the flat for us

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      August 11, 2016 at 12:50 pm

      That’s what I love about living in my apartment, there is always someone downstairs to check

  7. Elanor says

    August 11, 2016 at 9:58 am

    I’m terrible for worrying about things when I leave home and I’m always double checking the cooker and the plug sockets! You mention some really good tips here, thanks for sharing you advice! 🙂

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      August 11, 2016 at 12:50 pm

      I worry when I am leaving but once outside the country it’s YOLO lol
      I have my sister as back-up too

  8. Michaela YorkshireMum Britton says

    August 6, 2016 at 6:58 pm

    I am lucky that my neighbours are lovely and I live on the same street as my parents so they keep an eye on the house whilst we are away x

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      August 10, 2016 at 6:46 am

      Aww how lovely is that.

  9. Natalia says

    August 5, 2016 at 3:07 pm

    These are great tips that I think everyone could do, even if they don’t suffer from FOBA, as it’s good to prevent “surprises” when we arrive home. Really good post, I also didn’t know about the FOBA concept, it’s good to know that that’s thing 🙂 xx

    Reply
    • Miranda says

      August 5, 2016 at 3:30 pm

      Thanks Natalia, it’s a new term to me as well.

  10. Kirsty Hijacked by Twins says

    August 4, 2016 at 8:19 am

    These are all great tips. When we go away we have my parents going down everyday to feed the chickens and rabbits so that gives us some peace of mind x

    Reply
    • Miranda says

      August 4, 2016 at 9:43 am

      That’s lovely that your parents are able to help out whilst you’re away

  11. Kara Guppy says

    August 3, 2016 at 9:24 am

    I am lucky that my adult daughter house sits for us when we are away

    Reply
    • Miranda says

      August 4, 2016 at 3:45 pm

      How lovely of her

  12. Anna nuttall says

    August 2, 2016 at 6:57 pm

    I was thinking of installing something similar when parents goes away – just to give them a piece of mind. I love the video. xx

    Reply
    • Miranda says

      August 2, 2016 at 9:57 pm

      Aww I am glad you like it

  13. Clare aka Emmy's Mummy says

    August 2, 2016 at 1:36 pm

    Very good tips. We have a timer which we use to switch on the lights in the evenings and when away

    Reply
    • Miranda says

      August 2, 2016 at 9:55 pm

      How cool, I didn’t know they were timers that can be used like that

  14. Nina - Ready For A Cuppa says

    August 2, 2016 at 1:08 pm

    Some great tips. Luckily I have a shop on the front of my house and an annexe that I rent to my dad on the back so when we are away there is always people about.

    Reply
    • Miranda says

      August 2, 2016 at 9:55 pm

      Thanks
      That’s nice to have family so close by

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