As I enter the final year of my 30s, I thought I s As I enter the final year of my 30s, I thought I share with you some pictures of mine at 9 months, 9 years, 19 years, 29 years  to today 39 years old of age. Looking back at each decade, I feel both ‘older’ and ‘younger’, I see the change in my features, the change in my way of life, the change in my personality and the experience itched on my face. I am grateful for the life I have lived thus far and excited for the life I am yet to live. 
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2026 - 39, (Home, England), I am ready for this final year before my 40s but also ready for this next decade. 
2016 - 29, (Oslo, Norway), this decade was about self discovery and building the life I dreamt about. The life that I am super proud of and truly grateful to be living. This decade, I built my financial life and in later years choose to heal from the trauma gained in the last decade and now I feel well equipped for the future. 
2006 - 19, (Glasgow, Scotland), I thought I was grown (look at the cheekbones 🤣🤣) and ready for the world, chiiiild was I wrong, let’s just say, I am still resolving the trauma the decade brought me but I am grateful because I met my best friends and made decisions for the future I wanted to have. (Spoiler alert - I did better than I dreamed). 
1996 - 9, (Home, Zambia) this was my birthday but my little sister insisted she had to be the one in the middle. The only way we knew whose birthday it was, was by standing in the middle but this year I remember baby sister crying her eyes out and refusing 🤨
1988 - 9 months, (Chililabombwe, Zambia) although my mother looks tired and traumatised😟, I know I was loved and happy. 
#happybirthday #happybirthday❤️ #newera #39
Attended #ascotraces for the second year running a Attended #ascotraces for the second year running and I am glad to have experienced the ‘Village enclosure’ this year, whilst I loved ‘Windsor enclosure’ last year, it’s not for me. Next year, I want Queen Anne’s enclosure. 💕 #girlsdayout #girlslikeus #ascotfashion
How I missed you my love 🥰🥰🥰 #hertripsabroad #bla How I missed you my love 🥰🥰🥰

#hertripsabroad #blackgirlstraveltoo #maldives #neverstopexploring #welltravelled
Tried being a #touristforaday and we chose #london Tried being a #touristforaday and we chose #london because why not. My feet still hurt from the thought of how much walking we did, the fact that we walked from #bigben to #buckinghampalace is still fresh on my mind. 

#neverstopexploring
🖤🖤MARCH PHOTO/VIDEO DUMP🖤🖤 So much happened and 🖤🖤MARCH PHOTO/VIDEO DUMP🖤🖤 

So much happened and yet I can’t find the words.
It has been an amazing week here, definitely recom It has been an amazing week here, definitely recommend @iberostar in Agadir. 
#neverstopexploring #wanderlust #welltravelled #lifeofadventure #hertripsabroad
I spent a week in #dohaqatar and had the most rela I spent a week in #dohaqatar and had the most relaxing and fulfilling time of my life. Sometimes taking it slow and living in the moment is what the soul needs. 🥰🥰🥰
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 #hertripsabroad #solotravel #solotravelingisfun 
#blackgirlstraveltoo
I had such an amazing week in Doha, Qatar after no I had such an amazing week in Doha, Qatar after not visiting for almost 8years. 📍

#qatar #doha #qatarphotoinstagram  #solo travel #travelbug bestvacations igtravel travelpic travelblog beautifuldestinations tlpicks instatravel roamtheplanet traveldeeper travelgram travelinspo wanderlust instapassport exploretheworld travelpics travelmore passionpassport travelawesome lonelyplanet travelblogger travelphotography traveltheworld worldtraveler
Happy New Year, happy 2026 #firstpicture of the ye Happy New Year, happy 2026 #firstpicture of the year.
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Lifestyle · August 19, 2016

How to relax and treat yourself 

Relax and treat yourself girl, were the words uttered to me every time I would finish my 3 night shifts. Looking back now, I should have invested more in learning how to relax and treat myself. For someone who lives alone, you would think I have all the time in the world and having me time is not that difficult but you would be wrong as its blooming hard.

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I, as many would, put it down to planning and prioritising your life. For those of us without kids this should be easy but it’s not always that simple. But over the last few years of living alone, I have found some ways that work for me. So how could you achieve and find time to relax and treat yourself?

3 easy ways to relax

Exercise and Sleep – for most people even this is difficult. I am always jealous of people who fall asleep at the drop of a coin. Some of us, we need to run the day through in our minds. Then plan the next day’s to do list before we can finally fall asleep. In my case, most times I don’t even get chance to finish my next day list. I simply just seem to pass out. To remedy this, I do a couple of yoga moves I learnt in my tai chi class and they seem to help.

Digital Detox – this might not be easy because as bloggers our lives revolve around social media. From the moment I wake up, first thing I do is check my phone. Sometimes I don’t even realise it until it’s too late that I just wasted an hour of my life with my face down. Before bed (as I am doing now) I check my blog and social media, this shouldn’t happen. I should aim to stop social media checks at least an hour before bed. This is something I am working on, the days I have been successful has made a difference.

Soak or shower – I only have a shower cubicle in my apartment so it’s definitely shower for me. If you have a tub, you can soak up in using invigorating, refreshing and relaxing aromas from bath cremes. For those of us with only showers in our homes, there are many shower cremes one can use. Another option would be exfoliating body scrubs, which help remove dead skin presenting only new and fresh skin. After a good scrub, a massaging oil can be used to intensify the relaxation process.

3-ways to treat yourself.

Spend a day at the beach, we all live such busy lives so much that we forget to live our lives. Take any opportunity that presents itself and head for the beach. England is not always fortunate with good weather but sometimes even on the cold of days, it can be fun to go to the beach. Take in all the sites, marvel at Mother Nature and take a moment to be thankful.
Staycation or Getaway, as an avid solo traveler one of the many ways I treat myself is booking a getaway. Traveling for me is one of the ways I treat myself without guilty. I have been looking at some staycations that I can take within the huge, there are many options. I can not wait to pick one and go with my sister.

Binge or Read – I know I have mentioned digital detox but I feel it’s bingeing on your favourite Netflix dramas is an acceptable. Also part of the treat yourself way is to sit down with a nice cuppa with a good book.

There are many things you can do to help you relax and treat yourself. The ‘6’ ways I have shared above are just some of them. These might work for you, they might not but they work for me.

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Comments

  1. fashion-mommy says

    December 1, 2016 at 11:35 pm

    A soak in the bath with a good book is one of my favourite wind down/pamper treats.

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  2. Leah Shafik says

    November 29, 2016 at 9:41 pm

    At the moment I have so much stress with having to find a new job for the new year that I haven’t taken time out for me but once I do find a new job I definitely will be taking a well earned break!

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  3. Emma @ AdventuresofaLondonKiwi says

    November 29, 2016 at 8:29 am

    This is SUCH a timely reminder – we all need them from time to time!

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  4. Ickle Pickle says

    November 28, 2016 at 9:47 pm

    It is so much easier than done! With four children, I am always busy doing something. Great tips 🙂 Kaz x

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  5. Candice Nikeia says

    November 28, 2016 at 9:03 pm

    I really could use a staycation asap! It would be nice to sleep in a different location and experience something new! Great ideas– thanks!

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  6. Beautyqueenuk says

    November 28, 2016 at 8:46 pm

    I do love to binge read, I go through stages of just not wanting to give my book up and just read x

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  7. Mellissa Williams says

    November 28, 2016 at 3:12 pm

    I love a nice soak in a bath and a weekend away is always fun, if not always relaxing. I need to get off social media more

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  8. Ana De Jesus says

    November 28, 2016 at 11:12 am

    I definitely need a digital detox. Having a soak or a good read is a great way to unwind too!

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  9. Viki Marden says

    October 25, 2016 at 9:18 am

    Great post, I certainly need to take a digital detox soon, I feel like I spend most of my evening attached to my phone or laptop. x

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    • Anosa says

      November 27, 2016 at 9:15 pm

      A month on and I am still trying to practice digital detox

  10. Ickle Pickle says

    October 21, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    I used to teach mindfulness and meditation and use this to relax. I need to do a digital detox though. Kaz x

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    • Anosa says

      October 22, 2016 at 8:30 am

      I would have loved to attend that class

  11. North East Family Fun says

    October 21, 2016 at 5:10 pm

    Fab ideas – I love a digital detox every now and then x

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    • Anosa says

      October 22, 2016 at 8:30 am

      Thanks, it’s nice when you can detox

  12. Colette B says

    October 21, 2016 at 1:22 pm

    I’ve been trying really hard on the whole digital detox – I need to learn to leave my phone downstairs!!

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      October 22, 2016 at 8:29 am

      I am struggling with it too by working on it

  13. Rosana McPhee says

    October 20, 2016 at 11:10 pm

    I need a digital detox badly! So true I check my phone early morning too! R

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    • Anosa says

      October 22, 2016 at 8:29 am

      We are so addicted now this our gadgets sometimes it’s sad

  14. Sarah Bailey says

    October 20, 2016 at 11:02 pm

    I am awful at relaxing and treating myself, I’m going to have to try and do some of these. I always wished I could go to beach more I have to admit. x

    Reply
    • Anosa says

      October 22, 2016 at 8:29 am

      Make that a goal Sarah and then just do it

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